Clear, grounded guidance for your unique relationship needs.
The quality of our lives is inextricably intertwined with the quality of our relationships.
While there are some foundational best practices for creating honest, fulfilling, sustainable relationships, every relationship will have its own ecosystem and needs.
This is why my approach to relationship coaching is emergent rather than formulaic.
I have an expansive toolkit of principles and practices that are widely applicable across many relationship structures. However, my primary goal is to support you to identify, create, and nurture the relationships that work best for your specific needs and desires.
Maybe you're desiring:
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More connection in your family (blood and/or chosen)
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Deeper intimacy in partnership
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More efficient and streamlined communication and co-creation with colleagues and collaborators, or
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A general sense of safety and confidence with self when navigating social dynamics
Every mode of relating benefits from embodied relating skills.
I am educated and practiced in various kinds of alternative relationship structures, approaches and agreements. I specialize in working with folks in the kink, queer, neurodivergent and consensually non-monogamous communities. I also specialize in supporting people with advanced relationship skills to explore the subtler nuances and possibilities of relationship. You can learn more about my background and experience here.
This work will support you to cultivate an approach to relating with others that incorporates the wisdom of the body, play as a primary mode of learning and connecting, and relationship as both a human and spiritual practice.
Core Focus Areas
Attachment Styles and Parts Work
Neurobiology and Somatic Awareness
Embodied Boundaries
and Consent
Working with the Unconscious
Verbal and Non-verbal Communication
Playful, Creative Approaches to Connection
Client Testimonials
"I worked with Ashley during a critical time of exploring how to build healthy boundaries in relationships in order to heal generational trauma and build better connections with those I love and care about. With her deep and knowledgeable expertise, every session brought new insights I was able to process intellectually, emotionally, and somatically. The lessons learned allowed me to create transformative, healthy change in relationships with others and with myself. Highly, highly recommend."
--Tricia
"My time with Ashley was priceless. She was highly recommended by my therapist when I started searching for someone to teach me about BDSM and all that came with: boundaries, owning my own space, exploring pleasure, and asking confidently for my own needs to be met. It's hard to put into words what transpired during our sessions together...honesty, authenticity, self-growth, and deep embodiment. She exudes both genuine warmth and care and groundedness and strength. She creates a safe container in which to explore.
She is an extremely knowledgeable and experienced teacher. The way in which she models and embodies the domme presence - her confidence and self-containment yet deep attunement and attention - is incredible, truly a gift, and something that needs to be experienced. She uses her extensive background in psychology, mindfulness, and the human psyche to bring forth even more of what's below the surface. My time with her was truly transformative."
-Heather
"In the last 3.5 months of getting to work together, I have felt so much care and attunement. I feel you being in relationship with yourself, with a deeper awareness than I feel from most people, and your access to that awareness awakened and opened my own access to so many different parts of myself, including my own deep inner knowing. I needed someone to offer me permission to go there. I needed someone to hold space for me, like you did, to go a whole gamut of places. I did the work, and you were an available, loving, guiding witness and support person, which is really what I needed. Thank you so much for venturing to these places with me, for showing me new perspectives, and for giving me literally soooo many tools. You have a pot of gold of tools!
-Katie
"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
-Rumi
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I want to effectively communicate what I want and need, as an invitation rather than an expectation or demand. I want the communication to generate more intimacy, even if the need or desire can't be met.
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I want to expand my capacity to give and receive love, and have strategies to be with moments of contraction and fear.
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I want to be able to recognize, name, and skillfully navigate my emotions in a way that creates connection.
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I want to feel safe to be seen, in both my vulnerability and my magic.
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I want to cultivate secure attachment, and choose secure, emotionally safe relationships.
YES. I can help with that.
Sexual Intimacy
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I want to better understand, tend to, and communicate what my mind, heart, body, and spirit needs to organically open to and enjoy sexual intimacy.
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I want to feel more comfortable talking about sex, including topics like trauma, culturally taboo desires and kinks, consent and boundaries, fantasies, and the realities of sexual cycles that may include periods of fluctuating desire, ability, and activities of interest.
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I want to explore sensuality and erotic embodiment beyond conventional norms of genital-focused sexuality.
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I want to safely and skillfully incorporate more Kink, BDSM, or power dynamics exploration into sex.
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I want to explore how sex and sexuality can be used as a vehicle for emotional expression and intimacy, conflict resolution, alchemy, and increasing awareness evolution of relational dynamics.
YES. I can help with that.
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I want to feel safe and confident in my own skin
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I want to feel empowered to communicate my true yesses and nos, without apologizing or collapsing my boundaries in the face of resistance or reactivity
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I want to enjoy my own body as a sensual, erotic being, without relying on relational exchange with other humans.
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I want to cultivate devotion for myself, my passions, and my self care in the way I would devote myself to a partner's happiness and success.
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I want to feel so good in my own company, and so satisfied in my life, that I can choose connection with other's from desire and overflow rather than fear and scarcity, thus increasing my discernment and subsequent fulfillment in relationship.
YES. I can help with that.
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